How can you be there for loved ones
- How well do you know your
parents?
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How close are you to your parents?
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Are you sure you are ready to 'come
out?'
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How safe are you at home?
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Are you economicaly and emotionally
dependant on your parents?
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Will they still love you if they
find out you are homosexual?
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Will your friends hate you because
of it?
These are just some of the
questions
that im sure someone trying to 'come
out' would be thinking about.
And unfortunatly i cant answer them,
because everyone responds differently
to this subject, all i can say as
advice is go to someone you trust and
take it from there.
Parents and friends really need to be
supportive of their child's/mates
decisions, it takes alot of courage and
trust to feel strong and confident
enough to actually tell your parents
and friends of a change in sexuality,
especially with all the pressures of
society these days to live a
heterosexual lifestyle. Just remember...
Homosexual orientation and behavior is
happening and whether it’s approved of
or not, it’s not going to change.
Love
and attraction has many shapes, colours
and forms it is not all set out, it
cannot be measured or defined in terms
of sexual orientation.And
neither
should friendships or realationships.
It doesn’t matter if someone you
know ‘comes out’ and confesses to being
a lesbian, they are still the same
person, the same person you befriended
and the same person you loved. You
wouldn’t turn away a relative if they
were dying of cancer, so why would you
turn away, when someone who must feel
seriously confused and afraid needs you
and has come to you for support.
Remember just because you yourself
don’t subject to homosexuality, it
doesn’t mean you shouldn’t embrace
others that do. Especially if they
happen to be friends or realtives.
Deep down we are all the same it is
just our choices that determine who we
really are and we should all be there
to support each other, even if it means
trying to come to terms with a loved
ones change in sexual orientation.
I understand that accepting this will
be difficult in some cases, but if you
really care about someone does it
matter as to their sexual preference?
So how can you help?
Well the answer to this is simple...
support them, hold them close when
things are hard, ( because make no
assumptions things will be incredably
hard, but thats why they need your
support more than ever)tell them that
they are still loved and explain that
you will ALWAYS be there for them!
Knowing that they have the love and
support of a loved one will make the
transition in life so much easier for
them and believe me, they will never
forget what you have done for them.
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